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Everyone goes through rough patches in life. It’s never meant to be smooth—whether it’s relationships, careers, or personal loss. The real challenge is figuring out how to rebuild yourself through the hardships you face and come out whole. Over time, I’ve learned some psychological tools to navigate these challenges, and today, I want to share one that has been especially helpful: 

Identifying and writing down your limiting beliefs.

Limiting beliefs are thoughts that restrict your ability to think freely, act confidently, or make you feel insignificant. They can be very personal, shaped by the specific situations we find ourselves in or the relationships we are navigating. It’s important to write them down, confront them, and give yourself a boost. These beliefs often make you question your worth, but you have to remind yourself not to let your self-esteem weaken. Whatever flaws or imperfections you think you carry, know that they do not define you. 
'Indeed, We have created man in the best of stature' (Quran 95:4).

I no longer want to see or judge myself through the eyes of others. There is nothing wrong with me—physically, intellectually, or financially. I am enough just as I am. I understand that I am part of a greater puzzle within life’s intricate design. I am playing my role in a story far bigger than myself, and that gives my journey meaning.

My happiness and confidence come from within, not from external validation. Others do not define my worth; I define it for myself. My achievements do not define me. It is my struggles, growth, and efforts to become a better version of myself that truly shape who I am. I may not always be enough for others, but I am enough for myself, and that is more than enough.

This reflection is beautifully written and carries a profound message of self-acceptance and resilience.

JazakAllahu khair for reminding self worth 


One of the greatest forms of ingratitude among Muslims/Humans is 'I am Not Very Beautiful'. This modern age makes you say 'If I don't get that keratin treatment then my hair will look super UGLY, If I won't do a facial or if I don't put on makeup then everyone will mock me'. Every time I hear things like 'Look at that person, they are beautiful and look at me, I am not'. In the race of beautifulness and ugliness, this ayah holds another level of beauty 'Indeed we created humans in the best of forms'. 
Allah SWT swears by Tin and Zaitun and the Mount Sinai and the Peaceful City and then he SWT said that we created YOU in the best of forms, meaning you are:
1. No doubt, beautiful
2. Ashraf-al-makhlooqat 
If one reads this ayah and takes the message about physical beauty then it really gives a positive outlook of life and you end up not being too concerned of 'Looking beautiful' 

But this ayah doesn't merely talk about your face, rather it has a deeper meaning i.e. Spiritual beauty. Allah SWT gave every one of us a HEART which is beautiful, then it's YOU who decides how your heart should depict 'Beauty'. Have you seen a newborn baby? he feels so soft and cute and beautiful and he starts growing up, still adorable because the hearts of children are innocent and thus are BEAUTIFUL but as soon as you get conscious control of your life and decide your path (Whether to Allah or against Allah) then your heart evolves, either it becomes more beautiful or it becomes ugly and when it's ugly then your outlook of life becomes ugly.

This ayah makes me realize that I don't need any recognition or award of appreciation from people and neither do I want any judgment through people's eyes--whether about my physical, spiritual or intellectual beauty and this is the key, stop letting others judge you and If they continue to judge you then just don't care because if your Lord is saying to you that YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, then you are beautiful because who is more Sadiq (Truthful) then your Lord??

May Allah SWT bless us with beautiful hearts (which is what really matters!!)


I will leave all the readers of this reflection with a question:
What is the purpose of being so beautiful(Physically + Spiritually + Intellectually), what Allah SWT really wants to tell us by saying to us that you are beautiful?.....You have to read through the lines for this answer :)

In response to your request for our thoughts, I believe that some of humanity's most remarkable creations emerge from the depths of human expression. Take, for instance, the world's most expensive artworks, which are valued in the millions. These pieces not only showcase extraordinary beauty but also invite us to reflect on the artists behind them. It’s truly inspiring to consider the passion and creativity of individuals who produce such masterpieces. This understanding encourages us to recognize that true beauty comes not just from the art itself, but also from the spirit and intent of the artist who brings it to life. Consequently, we are reminded that the beauty of art is intrinsically linked to the artist, who embodies a unique sort of magnificence- here is the chain of beauty: Allah( 1st Artist)—-Human ( 2nd Artist) —- Art ( 3rd) 

Yesterday I was sitting after I woke up and there was dead silence for a few moments, 2 humans alive and breathing, in silence 

And I thought about my Regular morning in hospital, and the sounds that the machines make-the monitors beeping, the ventilators puffing, the dialyser churning - it’s only when you hear what it takes to the keep the human body alive and well, that you appreciate the masterpiece Allah has made our bodies - our kidneys quietly filtering, our lungs effortlessly breathing, our receptors, silently detecting changes in our blood sugar, pressure and heart rate and employing countermeasures 

The more I think about it 
The more I’m left in awe

Today when  I picked my cat up but she tried to bite me as if she didnt want to be pick up so i had to leave her. Previously  I just had this opinion that maybe my cat even when she doesn't wants to be picked up,shows some courteous me and doesn't resists. 

But I was wrong. 

Animals are vocal. Even if you pet them they are not going to accept your control or tryna be 'courteous'. They are vocal about their feelings. They tell you loud n clear what upsets them. 

This made me think,how even animals khow how to react in such situations and we dont.  Sometimes we become 'too courteous ' to get wronged. to get our rights abused. we make decisions to make people happy.
Similarly we let go our choices so as not to upset people around us. 

And sadly,sometimes we let go our values;given to us by Allah Tala  from the fear of what people will say. We can't withstand being different as if we are apologetic for following the best pathway. 

This made me think of the ayah where Allah resembles some people to animals or even worse. 

This was eye opening for me. 

I am a human, being honored by Allah Tala.
لقد كرمنا بني آدم. 

Im Being created upon .احسن التقويم . 

An animal isn't given quran, I have.
An animal doesn't posses Aqal, I do.
An animal can resist, I can't
How come?!

#wisdomofquran

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful,

In a world where the outer beauty is the focus, whereby people appreciate another due to a person’s physical beauty and receive respect and attention. Behind the external beauty is Allah SWT and behind the internal beauty is the guidance of Allah SWT.

In an over increasingly world where the appearance of a person can dictate the type of response from people. Perhaps, you have a large nose, or slightly crooked teeth, perhaps you have frown lines upon your forehead or parenthood has given you dark circles under your eyes. Perhaps you have one arm or one leg, or have lost a breast due to cancer. You are beautiful, because Allah has created you, and because Allah set you for a higher purpose - to worship Him.

Sadly, the world is changing and people are not satisfied with what Allah has given them, that people are going to great extremes to alter otherwise beautiful faces and bodies. The result often being a stark difference to the initially beautiful. People have removed their hearts from their purpose.  When your heart is not in align with your purpose then how is it that you will be ever be satisfied?  When you know your purpose you become much more appreciative. 

Yet, the world will often judge a person based upon their outer appearance, but we will be judged in accordance with how we used the limbs He gave us to worship Him, how the state of our hearts were before committing every act. 

Smile at the seemingly physical imperfections, work on the internal imperfections and take care of both the body and soul. Align both for our great  purpose. Allah has bestowed upon us with everything, to equip us with the task of worshipping Him. 

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, 'Verily, Allah does not look at your appearance or wealth, but rather He looks at your hearts and actions.'

Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2564


#currenttimes #Creation #ourpurpose

جب انسان اور رب تعالٰی کے تعلق پر غور کیا تو اک بات کی طرف دھیان گیا کہ اللہ تعالیٰ اور بندے کا تعلق کتنا عجیب ہے اللہ نے اپنی بہت ذیادہ مخلوقات پیدا کی ہیں اور ان تمام مخلوقات کو کسی نہ کسی طرح انسان کے کسی کام میں لگا دیا بہت ذیادہ مخلوقات ایسی ہیں جن کو انسان بطور خوراک استعمال کرتا بہت ساری ایسی جن کی کھال سے اپنے لیے کپڑے وغیرہ بناتا ہے بہت ساری ایسی ہیں جن کو بطور سواری استعمال کرتا ہے  باقی بھی ہر شے سے انسان کا کوئی نہ کوئی مقصد جڑا ہوا ہے حتیٰ کہ اللہ نے اپنی ایسی مخلوق جو ہر وقت اللہ کی عبادت کر رہی ہے اس کو بھی انسان کے کام میں لگایا ہوا ہے تو اللہ کی ذات جس مخلوق کے بارے میں سب سے زیادہ سنجیدہ ہے اسی مخلوق یعنی انسان نے جس ذات کو سب سے زیادہ غیر سنجیدہ لیا ہوا اللہ کی ذات ہے آج جو لوگ خود کو مسلمان کہتے ہیں وہ بھی رب سے غافل ہیں 
تو دعا ہے اللہ سب کو حقیقی معنوں میں آپنا تعارف اور پہچان نصیب فرمائے 
آمین

هو اعتداله واستواء شبابه... قال أبو بكر بن طاهر: "مزينًا بالعقل، مؤديًا للأمر، مهديًا بالتمييز، مديد القامة، يتناول مأكوله بيده"... أحسن خلق الله باطنًا وظاهرًا: جمال هيئة، وبديع تركيب الرأس بما فيه، والصدر بما جمعه، والبطن بما حواه، والفرج بما طواه، واليدان وما بطشتاه، والرجلان وما احتملتاه. القرطبي:22/368-370.
السؤال: ما وجه الامتنان بحسن خلق الإنسان؟ وما مظاهر ذلك فيه؟

* يمكنك وضع إجابتك عن الأسئلة في التعليقات حتى تعمّ الفائدة

* للمزيد عن هذه الآية في مصحف تدبر وعمل: https://altadabbur.com/#aya=95_4

#وقفة_تدبرية

I didn’t know about the olive trees,
How pure they grow.
How firm they are.
I didn’t about the olive trees that are in the ancient lands afar. 

Hundreds and hundreds of years old,
They have born much fruit,
Black, brown and every shade of green.
Sunny days and cold days they have seen.
But did you know they have seen the darkest of days? Ever witnessed amongst the human race.
Shouts and screams. Injustice, torture and countless of shattered dreams. 
I didn’t know about the olive trees, their branches dangle down like shadows in the lands of holiness. 
Tainted with persecution and the worst of sins.

Silent, strong, steadfast.
The olive tree has shedded much fruit,
And nourished so many.
Used in cooking; turning the simplest of staple foods into delicacies.
The oil used to massage the newborn babies and to soothe the aches of the elderly.
But perhaps most of all it is used to heal the wounds of so many.
I didn’t know about these olive trees in a land taken over by those who don’t even belong in the lands of these olive trees. 

These olive trees were the love of so many heroes that the world did not know before.
Plucking and harvesting from these trees that their ancestors recognised so well.
Big and small. Each one delivered it’s own haul. 
And each one nurtured fortitude, forbearance and a faith so strong.

So strong that even the world’s most educated’ oxfords, Cambridge’s and Harvards are perplexed by their courage and humanity. 
For their humanity is passed through their ancestors who were killed mercilessly. 
They too once ate from the fruits of these olive trees. 

And the world did not know about these olive trees, until so many lives have gone before our eyes, and witnessed openly through every corner of the world.

Yet, the world is not doing anything but watching these olive trees being burned to the ground by those whose grandfathers and parents did not eat from these olive trees and would not understand their value for if they did they would not have cut them down. 

The fruits and branches gone, but there are stones buried into the ground. And with resilience and faith these olive trees won’t stop growing again.


#ReflectinginCrisis

Powerful reminder of faith, deeds, and divine justice. 

Imagine this: You are stranded in a vast, lifeless desert, teetering on the edge of survival. Thirst grips your throat, and hope fades with every step. Then, out of nowhere, a stranger appears, offering you water that revives your body and guidance that leads you to a safe path, ensuring your survival. As you prepare to part ways, this kind soul asks you for one favor: to deliver a letter to his family. Would you honor his request?
Take a moment to think. Are you sure about your answer? Let’s test the sincerity of your response.
If you believe you would fulfill the stranger’s request, then reflect on this: How much greater is the One who has not only saved you but also given you life itself? Allah has endowed you with a body, intellect, and the ability to discern right from wrong. If you are grateful to a mere human for a life-saving favor, should you not be even more committed to fulfilling the commands of Allah, who sustains your very existence?
Now, do you see how ungrateful and unjust such negligence would be? But to whom is this injustice directed? Certainly not to Allah, for He is self-sufficient and in no need of our worship or obedience. The loss is entirely ours, a loss of purpose, fulfillment, and eternal reward.

Quran 33:72 speaks of a profound trust Allah offered to the heavens, the earth, and the mountains, a responsibility so immense that they refused it, fearing its consequences. Yet humanity, in its unique capacity for growth and moral choice, accepted this trust, because Allah created us in the best of forms (Quran 95:4), then reduce us to the lowest or bearest level (of justice and knowledge) Quran 95:5, only then we could accept the challlenge to move from unjust to just and from Ignorant to learned which is why we could superpass the level of angel.

Some scholars argue on Quran 33:72 that all other creations worship Allah by compulsion, while humans were granted the freedom to choose obedience or disobedience. However, this interpretation appears to conflict with Quran 41:11, where Allah commands the heavens and the earth to submit to Him( Willingly or Unwillingly), and they respond willingly. Their submission is not born of compulsion but of an inherent recognition of Allah’s justice and omniscience. If not they are not morethan a ROBOT

In contrast, humans were given free will precisely because of their ability to choose justice or Injstice and knowledge or Ignorant at thesame time. This freedom makes our worship uniquely valuable, as it stems from conscious choice . It is through this struggle to fulfill the trust placed upon us that we can achieve a rank higher than that of angels, who worship without the trials of choice and accountability.

So, reflect deeply: Are you honoring the immense trust Allah has placed in you? Or are you squandering it, forgetting the One who has given you everything? The choice is yours, and its consequences are eternal. 

THE KEY TO SUCCESS IN THIS ENDEAVOR IS HOLDING ONTO THE QURAN, AS IT GUIDE ONE TO THE PATH OF JUSTICE AND KNOWLEDGE

انساں کو بنایا گیا۔۔!
اسکی صورت کو سنوارا گیا۔۔!
رب نے اس میں اپنی روح پھونکی۔۔!
اور یہیں سے اس پر انعامات کی بارش ہوئی ۔!!
تمام مخلوق جھکا دی گئی اِس حضرت انسان کے آگے۔۔!
دنیا پوری نام کر دی گئی اس خاص مخلوق کے آگے۔۔!
یہ زمین پر چلتے ہیں تو زمیں انکو چلنے دیتی ہے۔!
یہ گر اکڑا کر بھی چلیں تو زمیں انکی اکڑ کی تکلیف کو برداشت کرتی ہے۔۔!
یہ کھلے عام نافرمانی جب کرتے ہیں تو فضا انکی راہوں کو روکتی نہیں ہے۔۔!
یہ گر ظلم کے پہاڑ بھی توڑ دیتے ہیں تو آسماں خاموشی سے تکتا رہتا ہے۔۔!
کہ مہلت اوپر سے دان کر دی گئی ہے۔۔!!
وقت مقرر کر دیا گیا ہے۔۔!
راستہ عقل و شعور دے کر سمجھا دیا گیا ہے۔۔!
مگر پھر بھی یہ حضرت انسان  مایوس ابلیس کے پیچھے چلتا ہے۔۔!
جو ٹھکرایا ہی رب سے مایوسی کی وجہ سے گیا ہے۔۔!
اور انسان۔۔!
وقتی کشش کا شکار اپنے نفس کو قابو میں نا رکھ کر بے قابو ہؤا جا رہا ہے۔۔!
گناہ یوں کرتا ہے جیسے کوئی دیکھنے والا نہ ہو۔۔!
گناہ کے بعد مایوس یوں ہوتا ہے۔۔!
جیسے کوئی رحمت عطا کرنے والا نہ ہو۔۔!
کوئی محبت کرنے والا نہ ہو۔۔!
اور حیرت تو اس بات کی ہے کہ اپنے ذہن سے ایک درجہ نیچے کی مخلوق کی بات مان کر اپنے رتبے کی شان کم کر رہا ہے۔۔!
کہ کتاب تو دان ہی تم پر کی گئی تھی۔۔!
ساری مخلوق کے اوپر برتر ہی تمہیں کیا گیا تھا۔۔!
یوں لگتا ہے تم اپنا اصل جیسے بھول گئے ہو۔۔!
یوں لگتا ہے رب کی ذات کو جیسے جان ہی نہیں پائے ہو۔۔!
واپس آجاؤ کہ راستہ تو ابھی بھی موجود ہے۔۔!
اور تمہارے ہاتھ میں موجود توبہ کی تسبیح کو ٹوٹنے میں بھی تو وقت ہے۔۔!
اس لیے لوٹ آؤ اپنے رب کی طرف۔۔!
قدم اٹھانے کی ہمت تو کرو۔۔!
پھر دیکھو گے کہ وہ ذات تمہیں کیسے مکمل کر دے گی۔۔!
بس لوٹ آؤ اپنے رب کے پاس..!
اسکی کتاب کے پاس۔۔!
کہ وہ ہی راہِ رب ہے۔۔!


جزاکِ اللّہ خیرا 
ماشاءاللہ بہت زبردست تدبر ہے 
اللہ تعالیٰ آپ کے علم میں مزید اضافہ فرمائے آمین 