QURANIC MAXIMS DAY 19:
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'Settlement is best' (4:128)

Negotiation to come to win-win agreement to both parties needs patience and resilience. Sometimes the win-win agreement is not what each wants best but it is better for their relationship. Perhaps because it’s more fair for both parties, it’s best for them.

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Yes, it might feel like lose-lose but a bigger purpose might have been achieved.

Our deen is very beautiful, it's gives a fine detail of etiquettes to develop a peaceful evironment.
In case of dispute or misunderstanding, we should hear the opponent's view and express ours too. This will lead to many penny disputes to be eliminated without making a big deal out of them. 
This is best as it avoids alot of wrong decisions and ugly sentiment to sprout.

True, the dispute can become worse over time, when it could have been resolved easily. What a waste!

QURANIC MAXIMS DAY 19: 'Settlement is best' (4:128) وَٱلصُّلْحُ خَيْرٌ

In the context of marriage, I have seen many instances around me where a marriage that ends with hostility never benefits. Those who parted with acceptance and kindness, I have observed their lives became better individually. I suppose, that goes back to the state of the hearts. Good intentions bring khayr, bad intentions invite harm. 

Settlement in whatever disputes reflect that both parties do not wish harm upon the other. Both sides want a fair solution that not only is acceptable to his/her own's situation but also not bringing any difficulties to the other party. Allah Al Khabeer certainly invite us to have ihsan and taqwa in this ayah. These 2 qualities seem to be the highlights of the maxims reflections we have been doing this Ramadan Subhanallah.

At the end of the day, I think what we all want to have in our lives is barakah. We want Allah to bless us, our choices and actions. Allah clearly states here that there's khayr in settlements. Whose words do we trust most? Whose judgment matters most? Allah loves the muhseen and the muttaqeen. May we be amongst them, Allahumma aameen!

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I didn't think about ihsan and taqwa being a running theme in the Maxims, but you may well be right! And it's true to say that with the right attitude, even a parting can be good for all involved.

QURANIC MAXIMS DAY 19

'Settlement is best' (4:128)

Settlement or making a situation good or better, as the root word of 'sulh' suggest. 
In His infinite wisdom, Allah has encouraged us to 'settle'.  In our limited wisdom and understanding, whenever we settle a difficult situation, we tend to think we will lose out if we 'gave in'. In reality, both parties win if they put their fear of Allah in making the 'settlement'.

WAllahu a'laam.

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Indeed, it's very useful to think about the root meaning and the connection to islaah.

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Relationship is a two wheeler, can’t work on one wheel.
To keep it going ;
there should be harmony between the two wheels
One must or at least try to understand others language, spoken or unspoken 
When there is bumps, one should take lead if other falls weak 
 
Allah knows man and woman are selfish, they can’t keep up. Even deep love dried up or  turned into ugly bitterness. One can easily forget what the other has done for so many years. When one is so indifferent or neglectful and the other one can’t take it anymore, Allah asks to make a settlement like a peace treaty, which is better than divorce. Graceful peace treaties between spouses are getting rare day by day, marriages are breaking like a spider net.

How to make it possible? 

here we should all check ourselves through the mirror of the Quran… before rejecting settlement and complaining about neglect or indifference…

Am I being selfish?
What do I exactly mean by neglect or indifference?
Am I guilty of the same issues I am complaining about?
And if I leave the relationship, who guarantees that everything will be according to my wish afterwards?
Do I do my competitive analysis on both the scenarios?
What about children?

Answering this question may help. Treat it like two countries in war, both know the loss they are going to incur, so one offers peace and comes forward five steps asking the other party to come five steps so that both of them can survive the future loss. They settle the issue on some condition and make peace.

May Allah help us all and make us among swalehin..

Ameen! And you're right, settlement often requires not only generosity, but courage.

I contrast this ayah with (4:34) where actions are highlighted when the man fears nushuz from his wife. But here, when the wife fears nushuz  from her husband, the call here then is to seek settlement.  I guess this is because the wife desires, despite the nushuz, to stay married rather than to divorce. Divorcing, for the wife, will be more catastrophic as she is economically weaker than the man and she have to take care for the children as well. So she more likely hopes for peaceful reconciliation and Allah acknowledges this and reinforces this in her advantage. Depending on the nushuz on the part of the wife in 4:34, the actions mentioned there could reinforce the peaceful settlement between them if the socio-cultural context allows for it.  Allah knows best. 

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This needs some more thought, but I would only point out that one of the meanings understood from the 'sulh' in this context is divorce through khul'. The point is that it is agreed mutually.